Honesty: the key to an enriching life
As you read through my recent posts on authenticity, it may have struck you that a key component of authenticity is honesty. How can we be authentic without being honest in our words, actions, and relationships? The truth is: we can’t. In my experience, honesty is the number one requirement for living an enriching, fully realized, and well life.
Honesty is also one of the hardest things to incorporate into our every day lives. There are so many ways that addiction or other negative patterns eat away at our instinct to tell the truth. Over time lying becomes natural—it’s simply encoded into our brains—and doesn’t seem like a risk factor in our lives. In truth, not being fully honest in our actions, words, and relationships erodes all trust, intimacy and personal growth. It creates a life of isolation, insincerity and estrangement as we become more and more enmeshed in fantasy and unreality.
But learning to be honest on a daily basis is a life-long process for almost every single person, and this is especially true for addicts or anyone looking to make positive changes in their lives. The good news it that even if you have lived dishonestly for decades, all it takes is one small honest gesture to begin changing your brain and changing your patterns.
When Rewired is released next year, I believe that the chapter on Honesty will impact people’s lives in extremely meaningful ways. My approach does not bring shame or dread into the discussion of honesty; instead, I look at being honest as a chance for all of us to embark on a life-changing adventure that will bring about positive changes. There will be challenges, we will experience emotional, mental and even physical sensations that may be daunting, but the end result will be unforgettable, inspiring, and will completely change how we approach our relationships and our lives. I know this from my own journey, and I can’t wait to help my readers take their first steps on a path of honesty.